Reflective Entry Week 11 – Presencing

I would like to express gratitude to Ingrid and Grichka for their supportive, cooperative and enthusiastic involvement all through the coaching calls. We as a team understood and learned enormously from each other.

My role as a coachee:

For this coaching call, we decided to begin the conversation in the morning. We started with Grichka and me as the coach and coachee respectively. Ingrid was our observer. We discussed about the way we tried to find our “authentic self”. We discussed in detail about the blending of sensing and presencing. It means to connect with the source of the highest future possibility and bring it into the present. Moreover, we discussed about the simple distinction between sensing and presencing. Later, I elaborated on the distinction as follows; sensing means acting from the current situation whereas; presencing is operating from the future, in other words future possibility that is seeking to emerge.

During the presencing, we tried to find the authentic self? For that we tried to answer few questions like, how do you think you “should” be? , What is the main aim of your life? We often find it difficult to answer such questions. In the discussion we concluded that it is impossible to judge yourself unless you know yourself truly. Each individual has his own way of thinking and thought process as a result people can’t understand themselves fully. There are various reasons due to which people are not able to judge or understand their needs, perception, thoughts, behaviour, personality and actions. Due to which, these individuals fail to know themselves completely.

Therefore, in order to find a solution for all the above failures, it is important to know yourself. And to know your authentic self one must dig deep down his/her own thoughts. All of us agreed that – it needs time, practice and energy, however the results are much greater than the investments.

My role as a coach:

I was coaching Ingrid, I observed that her way of thinking and finding her authentic self was completely different from mine. She had a strong opinion about rights for men and women. We discussed this was the implication of the society. Moreover, she elaborated that it is really difficult to find the authentic self with people you do not know well. Furthermore, we discussed the solutions to overcome above mention issue. One of which was to create a circle of presence, which means, it is required to have people around you who support you in the pursuit of deeper questions and challenges thus helping you unfold your journey.

Otherwise, he/she should develop a collective cultivating practice which brings intentional silence. Generative dialogues that provide access to deeper source of awareness and attention in daily life or routine are often a great deal of help. This is a gateway to connect and realise deeper source of collective creativity.

My role as an Observer:

All through my role as an observer for Ingrid and Grichka, I observed closely that – Being in a deeper state of mind, we enter a state of fundamental freedom and we gain the capacity to create and imagine our own thoughts. In this process we reach the highest stage of being our own authentic self. We achieve the power of operating from our highest future Self; At this point, we just want to be our own authentic self, and not be carried away by others thoughts. We don’t want to feel the stress and we don’t want to compete or be compared with anyone.

Thus Inner reflection can be frightening, but it will help us to discover our authentic self.

To conclude – I want to state the quotation by Bernice Johnson – “Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.”

Have a wonderful week!

Best regards,

Abhinav Shrivastava