Feedbacks on coaching cession - Week 10

My role as a coachee:

For this coaching cession I noticed that I was very receptive to what my coach was saying. I think this is due to the fact that Ingrid improved a lot in coaching people. Indeed, now she notices very interesting and relevant points. I really realize that she adds value to what I’m saying, speaking from another perspective. It makes me think about the analogy of the elephant: all blind people in the room  touch a part of the elephant and are convinced that they are right about what is present in the room (trunk, tail, leg, …) but nobody sees the real picture: the elephant. During the last coaching cession my coach made me see my personality from another angle. For instance when I was trying to define who I am I was focusing too much on the future and not on the past at all (we saw in class that this was a risk of field 4 conversations) which I think now is a mistake: how can I know who I am and who I want to be if I don’t know who I was? She made me realize that when I was projecting myself in the future I was only doing it through the “job prism” and not through the personal life aspect. And finally she suggested me to do more inquiry about myself concerning why it is harder for me to presence when I’m around people.

My role as a coach:

I really enjoyed coaching Abhinav for that last coaching cession. It was very interesting because now we are starting to know each other. Indeed, in the different life experiences he was talking about I could have told he was Abhinav even if I couldn’t have seen his face and recognized his voice. Some elements of his personality are sticking to his reactions, no matter the kind of conversation we have. I’m glad I can notice that because it proves me I’m paying attention to what he is saying. That shows I am really listening. The same thing happened when I was observing Abhinav coaching Ingrid, I could see that some elements of her personality where coming at each coaching cession (her lack of confidence for instance), Abhinav noticed it too and tried to suggest her ways to work on that. I’m really glad we all improved our coach skills together!! I have the feeling the whole team and I improved on the 5 processes of coaching: listening, mirroring, summarizing, questioning and catalyzing. Nevertheless mirroring is still the part I have to work on harder. Indeed, I feel comfortable at mirroring with my partners because I know them now but I’m not sure I would be that good and that confident with someone I have never talked with. Finally, I want to add that I can feel that coaching requires a lot of energy BUT it really gives you energy back when you can tell you helped your partners. I also realized that coaching can be done in our everyday life and I’m going to keep doing it.

Thanks to my team members for that whole cession of coaching J